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I hate having guests!

Answered 3 months ago

I really do.
I like my own space. I hate "entertaining" others. I feel obsessed with the cleaning before and after they come. I don't like conversation. I tend to hide in the kitchen.
This is probably why i have no friends.

Yeah yeah i should be grateful family want to spend time with us (read:the kids). Buttttt I'd really rather do it elsewhere. Or not at all.


Anyone else hate having guests?

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3 months ago
Yes! I love my family but I hate entertaining ANYONE in my home. I enjoy being around a small group of people at someone else’s house for about two hours, and then I have to go off by myself to a quiet place because being around other people drains me. The chaos and expense and stress and all of the cleaning before they arrive and after they go is too much!

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17 days ago
Yes!!!!!!

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5 years ago
Totally agree, I have 2 close friend/sister inlaws that I'm completely cool with having over with there hubbies. Everyone else is an anxiety attack waiting to happen, especially my mother in law. She's in from is for 3 MONTHS staying with all the kids for a period of time. Everyday I wake wondering will today be our day 🙁 So I'm on constant alert.

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1 year ago
Omg turn your water off and claim to have a burst pipe that can’t be fixed for weeks.
But really poor love is obviously lonely

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1 year ago
I hear you on this.
I have my mom over, for 5 weeks and I am already exhausted by her presence in my home!
I am ok to keep a nice distance relationship with short visits and lots of phone calls but having her here with me it is so draining for me!
Without being disrespectful towards her in any way, I cannot wait for her to leave!
Another 3 weeks to go!
Oh my God! I don’t want guests in my home ever again!
Thanks to God, I love my home and I am very happy living on my own!
My present for 8th March 2020 is: No guests in my home ever again!

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10 months ago
How does one survive having your mother in law with you for a indefinite period time - probably until she dies one day! I was always OK with her for short visits but this permanent story is killing me. I feel like a horrible horrible person for not wanting her in my space but she is impacting on every part of my life every second of my day and I am getting more desperate by the second. There are brothers and sisters but they can financially not afford to have her and those who can afford it don't want her. We got a flatlet on the house where she can stay and give me breathing space but she 'does not feel comfortable' to stay there. Wants to be part of the house🙄😢

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3 months ago
"My present for 8th March 2020 is: No guests in my home ever again!"

-Did you know covid was going to happen??... hahaha

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17 days ago
Haha I was happy too with the lockdown coming in xD

ANSWER
7 months ago
What do you do when your daughter wants it?

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9 months ago
You're an introvert

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9 months ago
So???

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9 months ago
That explains your feelings

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9 months ago
Yep absolutely hate it especially sleep overs!!

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10 months ago
Me too

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10 months ago
Same

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10 months ago
I just get so exhausted from entertaining and once they leave it’s more tidying up. I always make my kids tidy up the toys when we leave someone’s house yet the same ppl when they come over don’t seem to do it when they come to mine. Even when they say don’t worry about it I say no my kids played with the toys they can pack them up. I think it’s just basic respect. Leave the house as you found it

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10 months ago
Yep, same here. Especially when my MIL drops in unexpectedly and the house looks like a war zone. Makes me super anxious having guests over and entertaining them. It doesn’t come naturally and I don’t enjoy it.

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1 year ago
Me too. My home is my safe space. Clean but a bit untidy, but I hate it when visitors just show up unannounced or give me 5 minutes notice.
But on the other hand, the only people that actually come to visit are my parents in law and my sister in law - and I love them to bits, so I'm not uncomfortable if they come over (as long as I get enough warning hahaha)

I hate having to host the whole family for Christmas 😣

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5 years ago
I don't even like having visitors for a couple of hours!

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2 years ago
No wonder you are a Nigel no friends

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2 years ago
ME TOOOO

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1 year ago
Nigel no friends. Just the way I like it too. No drama, no politics, no gossiping or my life is perfect, yours isn’t.......most people are hard work.

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1 year ago
I hate having guests over, it gives me such anxiety. I spend hours cleaning and prepping and don’t enjoy the company at all, can’t relax. I love camping with friends and family because we all stay in our own campers so i have my own private space I can retreat to if i need a break, plus I only have to cook for my own family and not be a host. I just feel so bad not hosting at my house because my kids love it. They’ve asked me to have family over once a week. I just can’t do it, it’s to exhausting.

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1 year ago
I hate having guests over and am so glad to see this post! I thought i was the only one! For my 37th birthday im giving myself ‘no guests for the rest of my life’

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5 years ago
I'm not a huge fan, but, I have had a couple stay that were actually helpful. They brought food, helped cook, clean, played with the kids. They were no work at all, it was great. I think if people are staying the night or longer, the 'guest' label should leave & they should be making you dinner and your cups of tea as a thanks for having them stay.

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1 year ago
Agree 1000000%

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2 years ago
I Love visiting people, Ithink its cos I can sense when people are ready to have me leave, but When people turn up to my place I just want to make beleive Im not here

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5 years ago
Yep I'm definitely not a fan of guests. Absolutely hate having in laws over from interstate. They just sit on their ass and expect to be cooked for, cleaned up after and entertained. We have to bus it everywhere when we go over there, but when they come here they expect to be driven everywhere and means we have to take 2 cars coz we have 3 kids, and not once have they offered to help with petrol or parking for us to drive their ass around.

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5 years ago
This made me laugh because all the things you described are what they would have done for your husband for...say, 18 years! And you complain about it for a weekend or week.
I treat my parents like royalty when they are here because I know what they went through raising me and my brothers!

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5 years ago
Not at all. Neither of them ever had a licence so my husband took busses or walked all his life. They barely cooked, the kids had to take turns cooking and most nights the parents went out for dinner themselves while the older kids babysat and cooked for the younger ones. And he moved out at 15 not 18.

They do nothing for us when we go there, we even cook for them and pay for our and their bus fares for them to come with us when we go out somewhere, not to mention paying for entry fees and activities for them to tag along with us, just like they also expect us to do when they come visit us.
My parents are different, less entitled, more helpful, never pushy and I treat them accordingly.

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5 years ago
I always feel my house is not quite clean enough 😩

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5 years ago
I hate having others over and I hate going to friends houses. Give me a play centre any day. I then don't have to clean up after.

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5 years ago
I'm the complete opposite. I hate being a guest. I like staying in my own bubble. I love having people over. I don't stress about cleaning the house any extra. Maybe ill throw in an eXtra dust and vacuum the mornING they arrive. I will do the guest areas, obviously. I clean and close them up after guests by putting sheets over the furniture and vacuum sealing all the laundered linens unless I'm expecting more guests. We have a seperate "house" for guests. It was a barn we converted become we live almost 850km from our family.

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5 years ago
Nope. I love having guests. Maybe I'm just super laid back but I can definitely relax when we have people over. It's more people to talk to, more people for the kids to play with, plus I get to cook for more people. Growing up in a big family I miss cooking for 11 or 12 people. Lol it took me almost a year to stop over cooking when I left home. And there's someone else to do the dishes afterwards. Score!

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5 years ago
Funnily... i have a huge family. 9kids in my family. 7 uncles/aunties EACH side.
Shit tonne of cousins and neices and nephews... this huge crowd has turned me the opposite to you.
Human behaviour is funny sometimes

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5 years ago
Lol which were you in sibling order? Maybe that has more to do with it? I'm second eldest with a big age gap between the others so I got to help out with the babies.

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5 years ago
I was second last. I've always felt overwhelmed by all the people and wanted alone time - hahaha like that was going to happen growing up! 😉

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5 years ago
I usually really enjoy having guests but we recently moved and have my Inlaws staying with us for the first time.. Oh my goodness I can't wait for them to leave. I never realised how inconsiderate they are! Expect me to make every drink and meal for 11 days straight and haven't offered to so much as clean a dish, so over it..

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5 years ago
That is so rude and selfish of them. I feel for you.

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5 years ago
Thank you i really appreciate it x

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5 years ago
We have purposely kept living in our starter home even though we can afford to buy a bigger place so that we don't have the room to have people stay over. Visitors are welcome but free loaders aren't.

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5 years ago
I love having people over for dinner/parties but I dont like people staying over. I feel uncomfortable having people sitting around having to entertain them and made idle chit chat. I told my Dad so many time how awkward it made me feel but he would get offended if I didnt insist that he stay over.
I also feel funny staying at peoples houses too, would prefer to stay at a hotel.

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5 years ago
Nope I love entertaining, I have a lovely house with a balcony and pool overlooking the river.

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5 years ago
I prefer to have guests over because the kids are young, can put them to bed and relax, don't have to worry because I know my house is set up for my kids safety.

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5 years ago
I also hate staying at others homes!!! Give me a hotel any day if i have to stay away from home

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5 years ago
Oh same!

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5 years ago
I feel the same. I always try to invite people out for picnics instead. Overnight stays are more exhausting.

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5 years ago
Same. Nothing more draining. I would prefer to never have to talk/entertain anyone again. I'm happy with my little family. I get physically drained after having people over.

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5 years ago
I Hear you....I had family wanting to come stay from 8hrs away for Australia Day weekend and I go back to work the day after....Sorry no can do !!!

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5 years ago
I agree, I'm a self confessed loner

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5 years ago
I am EXACTLY the same!!! I don't feel comfortable when we have guests staying with us. Like I can't be myself!

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5 years ago
Yes! I just can't relax!! I feel physically tense the whole time. And on show almost. Its exhausting.
Easy answer- chill the heck out... sadly I just haven't mastered that in my 15odd years of being an adult in my own house.