How to Help Your Teen Through Their First Heartbreak

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No one is immune to heartbreak. Even the strongest and most confident people can find themselves feeling crushed after a breakup. If your teen is going through their first heartbreak, it can be hard to know how to help them. This blog post will offer some tips on how you can help your teen during this difficult time.

Teenage heartbreak is real and it’s time we stopped dismissing it and brushing it off as just another crush.

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Nick Duigan, senior clinical adviser from mental health foundation Headspace, agrees that we need to take the emotional turmoil teens feel when their romances end far more seriously.

“There’s now a strong awareness of the impact bullying has on young people. Yet we rarely acknowledge the impact of a relationship break down on teens, which is equally as likely to trigger the onset of a mood disorder. Teens feel things with a heightened emotional intensity and this, combined with their impulsivity, is almost the perfect storm for enormous distress and confusion.”

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What should you (we), as parents, do to help your teen heal their broken heart?

Don’t go into full-on Mama Bear fix-it mode. It is important to let them sit in their emotions and feel the pain and grief. Acknowledge what your child is feeling is real, and use it as an opportunity to help your teen learn to process grief, says Nick.

We must also resist saying ‘I told you so’ (even if we did) and encourage them to build their self-soothing skills and networks of support (ask, ‘What could you do right now that might help you feel better? Who would you feel safe speaking to about this?’).

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The Best Things to Say (or Do) To Comfort and Help Your Teen

  • A good old-fashioned dose of TLC goes a long way
  • It’s not a good idea to say “I told you so” or “you should have got in first” or “I never liked him/her”
  • Don’t take sides
  • To help your teen, listen without disruption or offer an opinion
  • Be supportive of their decision
  • Cook their favourite meal
  • Switch on their favourite movie or TV show
  • Offer to help your teen by calling their mate and inviting them over if they need to chat with someone else.

For Teens: Be Kind to Yourself!

  • Remember what’s good about you
  • Take good care of yourself
  • Get lots of sleep
  • Eat healthy foods
  • Exercise regularly to help ease the stress
  • Do the things you normally enjoy
  • Keep yourself busy
  • Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away.
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How to help your teen for advice
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Mums share their first-ever heartbreak

While lots of our mums shared that their first heartbreak was the loss of a family member or their beloved pet, many also felt heartbreak at the hands of a young boy or girl.

Cath shared, “My heart was broken when I was 14 and my big brother was involved in a horrible accident.”

This one broke our hearts too!! “My boyfriend and his best mate were killed in a car accident when I was 17. Literally broke my heart.”

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Katie also had us in tears, “My best friend/ love of my life died in a car crash October 2nd, 2008. I was going to go the night it happened to his place and tell him how I truly felt about him. (How much he meant to me, how much I loved him) I never got to because the very same night he passed away. I was Devastated! But I know he is with me in spirit and I am forever grateful to have been given the chance to have known and love him!”

Ems story is a bittersweet one – “The FIRST boy I can remember liking was in pre-school. His name was Craig, he lived next door to my best friend and hated my guts. The sweetest, saddest childhood romance was Brad, we were about 6, we used to write each other love letters and all and I was devastated when he moved away! But the most bittersweet, break-my-heart romance was my boyfriend when I was 17. We still speak sometimes and he has a lovely family, as do I – we weren’t meant to be.”

Gia was left unimpressed because, “Harrison Ford wouldn’t marry me ….”

Do you remember your first heartbreak? Now, how do you help your teen in the process? Tell us in the comments!

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Tracy has been a digital content writer for over 10 years and a crazy mum of two boys for nearly 17, so be gentle! The teen years are rough! Beach lov...Read Moreer. Terrible housekeeper. Tea drinker. Wine sipper, who sadly can't eat cheese or ice cream. Life is cruel! Read Less

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