A baby becomes a toddler, becomes a child, and then they’re on the verge of puberty— and then deodorant becomes a MUST!
…and *sniff* there’s a smell in the air and it’s not their milky breath, nor have they had an ‘accident’…
When your child gets a bit of body odour, it can catch parents on the back foot as surely their child isn’t hitting puberty already? But some kids can start being stinky earlier than others – and if your child is taking medication – this can make them start their body odour even earlier.
So when does my child need to start wearing deodorant? Let’s see!
Here are some reassurances that, unless your child is a rare example of precocious puberty, it’s just the first of the changes that mean your baby is growing up. Lots of things influence changes in body odour, including diet, but if you’re concerned about a sudden change in sweat or smell of your family member, please consult a health professional. In very rare cases, it can indicate a health issue.
What is Precocious Puberty?
Just for your information (because it is very rare) – Precocious Puberty is where a child’s body begins puberty before the ages of 8 in girls and 9 in boys. Precocious Puberty needs medical intervention as puberty can affect the growth of the skeleton and the early onset of puberty may affect your child’s growth.
Precocious Puberty can be hereditary or it can signal a thyroid or ovarian problem. Please seek medical attention if your child falls into this category.
So when does your child need to start wearing deodorant?
Follow your nose and if you notice it, take charge! In general, from a really young age 4 years or so, when kids are off to structured learning or activities such as sports it can be noticed that some kids have a whiff of body odour. Some people would think of it as pleasant, but at the end of a long day, it may not be. And using deodorant could save your kid from awkward situations.
The average age the Body Odour train comes to town is around the 10 years old mark.
From a personal point of view, my son (who is on medication for Autism) started to be a bit stinky around the six-year-old mark. Apparently, it is common for kids on the spectrum who are medicated to be stinky as the medication can make them stink. But it wasn’t long after that really horrible body odour started to permeate his clothing too….
For general body odour, let’s start with some basics before leaping for the deodorant or antiperspirant aisle.
Body odour comes from sweat being eaten by bacteria. When there’s more sweat, there’s more odour and when the body starts to mature (a process that starts much earlier than other outward signs such as breasts or facial hair) the sweet baby sweat and honest smelling sweat of toddlerhood changes to mature sweat and the bacteria convert it into more odiferous compounds.
That is to say the more grown-up the sweat, the more it stinks and the more quickly it gets on the nose.
Therefore, you want to help reduce that opportunity for bacteria to thrive, which means basic hygiene—such as using deodorant— needs to be stepped up.
Ideas on Improving General Hygiene
Setting some standards for family hygiene in an open, non-confrontational and supportive way really helps. Up until now, being clean and presentable has been something that you have done for and to your child; now’s the time when conscious ownership by your child can start.
Rather than making it a battleground, make up a chart of what needs to be done every day for a healthy happy body (and not-going-insane parents demanding to know if teeth have been cleaned or if those knickers are new today or how many times his socks have been worn!).
I found that having a good anti-bacterial body wash in their shower really helped – I used Profesh by Dettol – and my boys really loved it and it did help the body odour!
If you have boys, buy them some Lynx, some boys love smelling good and if they have it on hand – they may be more likely to use it!
1. Check How Well They are Washing Themselves
MOST of the time, kids are failing to wash themself properly. When I noticed my sons stink, I happened to be outside the bathroom door when I heard singing….. On investigation – he had the shower running, but he was watching Youtube videos – sitting OUTSIDE the shower. Hmmmmm.
So check that your child is actually having a shower, and enforce that need to focus on the ‘pits and privates’.
Use gentle soaps and cleansers in the shower or bath to avoid dry irritated skin, and “bubble bath UTIs”.
I found that normal soap or evening barely using deodorant wasn’t cutting it so I now buy an anti-bacterial body wash for him which has made a huge difference in conjunction with his deodorant (when he wears it)! Not only that, but sometimes kids just don’t wash as well as they should, so I now occasionally do the ‘sniff test’… That is smelling his pits to ensure he has washed. This keeps him on his toes and ensures he is washing everything that he should be!
Different soaps and body washes work differently on different people, so try a few different sorts and see which works for your child. The Dettol brand worked well for our family.
2. Hair that Smells Like Cheese is NOT Okay!
Grotty, lanky, matted hair, perhaps with the smell of wet dogs from being washed and left to dry untended, is not going to improve things. Or if they leave it too long between washes I tell them ‘Their Hair Smells Like Cheese’. Negotiate with your child about haircuts, hair care and dressing it each day all you like, but start with clean hair!
Have a regular routine for hair washing. We use Sunday night as a night to wash hair and get nails trimmed and ears cleaned out – then I remind the boys a few times during the week if they have been doing loads of sport and have been especially sweaty. Generally, kids do need to wash their hair every second day (especially boys).
There are loads of natural and gentle shampoos on the market now – we love the following brands:
- Sukin makes a lovely Natural Balance Shampoo
3. Wash Uniforms or Outfits Daily
Once kids get to that certain age, you can’t really get more than a day’s worth of wear out of them, unless you want the smell of body odour to permeate their uniform, never to be stink-free again! If you add half a cup of vinegar to every wash, it stops the smell from embedding into the fabric.
If the smell is already right in there – read our article on ‘How to Remove Body Odour from Clothing.
Washing them as soon as you possibly can after wear makes a huge difference so if you can get them used to throw their uniforms in the washing machine when they get home (and change into some outdoor clothing or similar). Yes, I know that washing so often is a real pain, even placing them in a bucket of water with some vinegar until you can wash them will help.
4. Check that hats, shoes and bags aren’t the sources of the sweaty smells.
You may have to wash or replace these more often for sweaty bodies. Shoes, in particular, can s-t-i-n-k and may need airing, drying or sanitising. Sprinkle bicarbonate soda in the shoe then stuff with newspaper and pop in the freezer for 24 hours. Shake out the bicarb and you’re good to go!
If you don’t have expensive runners, placing them in a bag and popping them in the washing machine on a gentle cycle will get them washed perfectly. Hang them out by the laces in the sunshine for a few days afterwards.
5. Consider changing to natural fibres for as many clothes, shoes, linen and accessories as possible.
Sometimes, it’s just not all about using antiperspirant or deodorant. Some fabrics claim to have bacteria-fighting abilities, such as bamboo or aloe vera-impregnated cotton. These fabrics, however, tend to be expensive.
Bamboo is amazing for its breathability! We don’t have a whole lot of choice when it comes to the material used in School Uniforms, but we can try to dress them in breathable clothing at other times.
6. Work on All Other Aspects of Body Hygiene
Are they regularly brushing their teeth (with toothpaste), are they putting on deodorant regularly, are they washing behind their ears.
Having noticed a change in your child’s smell might be a good time to start talking about body changes and puberty. It can be a good segue into a potentially awkward topic.
There are natural, gentle alternatives to body spray, deodorant and strong antiperspirant. Coconut oil, bicarbonate soda with essential oils, crystals, sprays made from hydrosols and herbal waters are on the market. Some parents embrace the idea of their children learning to use these products!
For middle-school or older children, wearing deodorant is a right of passage. Owning the right deodorant may play a part in their position in the school hierarchy (stranger things have happened) so don’t dismiss this if your child raises the issue with you. The currency of the schoolyard is variable and quaint but helping your child to navigate it and to negotiate with you around this issue is also a part of growing up.
Check what the school policy is about the use of aerosol or highly-scented deodorants and antiperspirants, and set and maintain strong boundaries about their uses at home, particularly if anyone in the family may react to them asthmatics, migraine sufferers, younger children or the elderly.
7. If You Are Doing All This and They are Still Stinky….
Some kids are just really stinky no matter how much you try. If this is your child, I do highly recommend one of those ‘Put on the Night Before’ Deodorant Creams. These creams are applied to the armpits nightly after a shower – and they really do help. They are up to three times stronger than traditional deodorant – and good for stinky kids (and adults).
Be prepared for you to feel emotions about this grief, excitement, frustration and many other shades of emotions that come with watching our children grow up. Some milestones of parenting are huge and easily measured but others, like the gentle transition of child into teenage, can catch you by surprise.